Why Do The Bad Ones Win?


When the Bad Ones Win: Why Life Feels Unfair and How to Handle It

Isaiah 41:10

Let’s cut to the chase—life sucks sometimes. You’re busting your butt, doing the right thing, staying honest, and trying to live with integrity.

Then you watch some sleazebag who lies, cheats, and rips people off, sail through life like nothing matters.

They get the promotion. They get the praise.

And you? You’re stuck in the background, still paying your dues.

You can’t help but wonder: What the hell?

It feels like you’re playing by the rules, while everyone around you plays dirty and wins. It doesn’t seem right.

But here’s the thing. Just because it looks like the bad ones are winning doesn’t mean they really are.

The Hard Reality: They Don’t Always Win

Let’s get real. It’s a test. One of the biggest tests you’ll face in life. You have to sit back and watch people tear families apart, destroy reputations, and climb the ladder by stepping on everyone else.

You see them waltzing past, looking smug, while you’re left picking up the mess they made.

It doesn’t feel fair. It doesn’t feel right. And it’s not right.

But you know what? This is exactly the moment when you’ll discover who you really are.

If you’re going to stay the course, if you’re going to keep doing the right thing when it’s easier to just cheat and lie, you’re going to prove something to yourself.

God is watching. And while the bad ones might seem like they’re winning today, their victories are short-lived.

Psalm 73:3 says, “For I envied the arrogant when I saw the prosperity of the wicked.”

David felt the same way. He saw people prospering who didn’t deserve it, and it drove him crazy. But in the end, he realized their success wasn’t real success.

Your Good Deeds Won’t Go Unnoticed

Here’s where things get interesting: The good you do, the kindness you show, the way you stick to your values—it all matters.

It might feel like no one notices right now, but that doesn’t mean you’re invisible.

God sees it all. Every small act of kindness. Every time you held your tongue when you wanted to lash out. Every time you chose the hard path over the easy one.

God keeps a scorecard of every time you COULD have chosen the easy thing to do but didn’t. The times you chose to grit through when you could have given in to temptation for the short term reward, but you chose to go the hard way (the RIGHT way usually.)

And guess what? Those “wins” the bad ones are racking up? They’re not real.

They’re built on sand. They can’t hold up in the long run. You can lie and cheat your way to the top, but you’re just one mistake away from it all crumbling down.

Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

This isn’t a cliché. This is God reminding you that you’re part of a bigger plan. Even when things don’t look fair, even when the jerks seem to be winning, God’s got a purpose for you.

You don’t need to see it right now to believe it.

Keep Doing the Right Thing—It Will Pay Off

Here’s the cold, hard truth: This world doesn’t always reward the good. Not right away, anyway. And that’s a test you have to pass.

But trust me on this—your integrity will eventually pay off. It might not be today, or tomorrow, but eventually, it will come.

Every act of good you do builds up your character, builds up your reputation, and builds up your reward in ways you can’t see right now.

And the good you put into the world will come back to you—maybe not in the way you expect, but it will come.

Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

The key here is don’t give up. The harvest will come, and it will be worth it.

God Keeps the Score

When the bad ones win in the short-term, it’s easy to feel like you’re losing. But here’s the kicker: God is keeping the score.

You don’t need to see the immediate payoff. It’s not about what they get.

It’s about what’s coming for you—because you’ve been faithful, because you’ve done the right thing, even when it felt like no one was watching.

And when you finally see that payoff? It will be better than anything the bad ones ever got. Trust that.

So, next time you watch someone cut corners, lie, or cheat their way through life, take a deep breath.

Know that this is a test. And you’re passing it. Your time is coming.

Keep doing the right thing, and remember: God’s got the scoreboard.

And He doesn’t miss a thing.


Worthiness Is a Choice

Why We All Feel Useless (And What to Do About It)

The Universal Feeling of Doubt

Let’s be real. At some point, most of us feel worthless, like we’re somehow falling short.

Maybe it hits when we scroll through social media, seeing others with seemingly perfect lives, or when we look back and wonder if we missed our mark somewhere.

This feeling doesn’t discriminate—it reaches everyone, whether young or old, successful or struggling. Even those who seem to “have it all together” question their worth at times.

Why Do We Question Our Worth?

This feeling of inadequacy often arises because of our society’s obsession with success and self-image.

Society constantly reminds us that our “prime” is behind us or that we don’t measure up. We’re bombarded with messages that we should be more, do more, and have more.

When life doesn’t look like the highlight reels we see daily, doubts creep in about our value.

But here’s the truth: feeling worthless is part of the human experience. Even in the Bible, we see people struggle with these feelings.

Psalm 139:14 reminds us, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

This isn’t just a feel-good quote—it’s a real reminder of our intentional design and purpose, even when we can’t see it ourselves.

Recognize Your Value in God’s Eyes

Knowing that we’re “wonderfully made” doesn’t always make these feelings disappear. When we feel lost or as though we’ve failed, we need to step back and look at the bigger picture.

God doesn’t make mistakes. Our worth isn’t tied to accomplishments or how we compare to others. We’re valuable simply because of who we are and who created us.

I have a hard time with that one. My self worth was tied to whatever success I had financially. So when things were good, I felt great about myself.

But illness and a hit to the economy sent me back to scraping for change and terrified I couldn’t pay my bills for years.

My self worth took probably the biggest hit of my life at that time. I know a lot of people who’ve gone through a similar type of loss who felt the same way.

Jeremiah 29:11 assures us, “For I know the plans I have for you…plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Even in times of discouragement, God has a purpose for us. This season of doubt or waiting might feel like a setback, but it’s often a time of growth that prepares us for what lies ahead.

Embrace Your Worth and Purpose

The next time you feel worthless, remember you’re not alone. This is a part of everyone’s journey, no matter how they appear from the outside.

Your worth isn’t about job titles, age, or approval from others. You are valuable, chosen, and “fearfully and wonderfully made.”

Keep moving forward—your purpose is bigger than you can imagine right now.

Grief: The Silent Weight You Don’t Have to Carry Alone

How to Find Healing and Comfort Through Grief with Biblical Guidance

Grief is a sneaky thing.

It doesn’t just show up when someone dies. It doesn’t wait for your heart to be prepared. And it certainly doesn’t follow a schedule.

It can hit you after a loss that feels just as heavy, but isn’t always obvious to those around you. Divorce. The end of a friendship. Going no-contact with family who hurt you deeply.

These are all forms of loss, and they all come with their own brand of grief.

Here’s the truth: grief is messy. It doesn’t look the same for everyone, and it doesn’t have a defined timeline.

You might find yourself waking up one day feeling like you’ve conquered the worst of it—and then out of nowhere, it hits you like a freight train all over again. The tears. The anger. The confusion.

But here’s something that’s important to remember: it’s okay to grieve—however long it takes.

In Psalm 34:18, the Bible reminds us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

Grief can feel like a crushing weight on your chest, like you’re never going to breathe again, let alone laugh or feel joy. But this scripture tells us that God isn’t distant in those moments. He’s right there, feeling the pain with us.

Grief isn’t just about loss through death—it’s about every kind of rupture in life, the moments where everything shifts and we’re left picking up the pieces.

Maybe it’s the end of a marriage, or the severing of ties with someone who was once close to you. And even when it’s not physical death, the ache is real.

In Matthew 11:28, Jesus said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Those words are a clear invitation to lay down the weight you’re carrying, to stop pretending like you have to go through this alone.

It’s okay to not have it all figured out. It’s okay to take time to heal. No one is timing you.

Grief has its stages—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. But those stages don’t follow a neat, step-by-step pattern.

Sometimes they come all at once. Sometimes they loop back on themselves. And that’s okay.

The key here is: you don’t have to rush through it.

Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to feel, to sit with the pain when it comes. And remember, you’re not alone in this.

God sees you in the pain, and He will help you carry it, even when it feels unbearable.

Grief is part of life—but so is healing. And, though it might not seem like it right now, healing is coming.

You’ll get through this, even if it’s one step at a time.

Narcissists: Here’s a Taste of What They Have Coming

Dealing with Narcissism: What Jesus Said About Those Who Thrive on Chaos

Let’s get something straight right from the start: Narcissism isn’t a word you’ll find in the Bible.

But if you’ve ever dealt with someone who is utterly consumed with themselves, who thrives on chaos, manipulation, and control—someone who gets their kicks from tearing others down—then you know exactly what kind of person I’m talking about.

It’s the one in your life who can’t stand to see you succeed, who secretly poisons relationships behind your back, who thrives on the drama of your downfall.

And sometimes, this person might even be family. Maybe they married into the family (both of those are absolutely the truth in my case.) Maybe they’re the ones who should have had your back, but instead, they’ve been plunging a knife into yours every time you turn around.

I get it. It’s horrible. You’ve prayed. You’ve tried to be kind, to do things the right way, to take the higher road.

But no matter what you do, they seem to find a way to make your life harder, more painful, or more confusing.

But here’s the thing: Narcissism is not new. Jesus dealt with people like this too.

And while the Bible doesn’t say the word “narcissist”—it does tell us exactly how to handle people who are lost in their own self-importance, consumed by jealousy and insecurity, and use others as pawns in their own game.

The Truth About Narcissistic People: They Thrive on Chaos

Narcissists are good at one thing: creating chaos. It’s their fuel. They can’t exist without the drama, the attention, and the control they get from hurting others or manipulating situations.

And in many cases, they disguise it as “concern” or “help,” but behind the mask, it’s a different story.

Sound familiar?

Here’s the thing about these types of people: they’re deeply miserable.

They might appear to have the upper hand. They might even seem to be winning—sowing discord, tearing apart relationships, and watching people suffer.

But what you often don’t see is the wreckage of their own lives. Narcissists may have no real friends because, deep down, they can’t actually be a friend to anyone. And they’re lost in their own misery.

Here’s how Jesus told us to handle these kinds of people:

1. Recognize Them for What They Are (But Don’t Get Trapped in Their Game)

In Matthew 7:15, Jesus warns us: “Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves.”

It’s a powerful metaphor, and it applies here. Narcissists will often pretend to be something they’re not. They’ll wear the mask of a friend, a family member, someone who’s “looking out for you.” But deep down, their motives are to destroy, to manipulate, to feed their own ego.

You need to see them for who they are—without the mask—and protect your heart.

2. Don’t Let Them Steal Your Peace

Jesus also said in Matthew 10:14, “If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet.”

In other words, if someone is toxic—whether it’s a family member, a friend, or a spouse—and they won’t listen, won’t change, or only bring chaos into your life, let them go. You don’t need to keep trying to fix something that isn’t broken because they’re the ones who are broken.

Stop wasting energy on people who don’t want peace, who thrive on conflict and chaos. Shake the dust off and move forward. It’s hard, but it’s freeing.

3. Trust That They Will Eventually Face the Consequences

Here’s one thing that’s guaranteed: people who live by tearing others down don’t get away with it. They might win small battles here and there, they might seem like they’re thriving for a season, but eventually, the truth always comes out.

Galatians 6:7 reminds us: “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.”

Narcissists and manipulators can spin all the lies they want. They can poison relationships, spread rumors, and play their games—but the seeds they plant will eventually come back to them. In fact, sometimes their own misery is the harvest they’ve been working toward all along.

4. They Live Miserable Lives (Because They Have No Real Relationships)

Think about it: Narcissists can’t maintain real friendships because, at their core, they’re self-centered. They view people as tools to be used for their own benefit. And when you strip away the people they use, they’re left with nothing but an empty, lonely existence.

As Proverbs 18:1 puts it: “An unfriendly person pursues selfish ends and against all sound judgment starts quarrels.”

These people are driven by insecurity and jealousy. They don’t know how to love others, so they keep their lives in a constant state of unrest. They have no peace, and the more they push others away, the more isolated they become.

5. God Has a Plan for You—And It’s Not About Them

Finally, it’s important to remember this: their story doesn’t have to be your story.

Yes, they might be family. Yes, they might have hurt you deeply. But their toxic behavior does not define your future.

God has a different path for you—a path of peace, healing, and blessing. The more you focus on Him, the less power these people have over your life. Proverbs 23:18 reminds us: “There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off.”

So, no matter how much chaos they try to bring, remember: you are not the victim in their story. You’re a child of God, and your story is in His hands.


In the end, dealing with narcissistic people—whether they’re family or someone who married into the family—can feel like a never-ending battle.

Again – this is one I struggle with daily. Watching the narcissist ‘win’ time and time again, and wonder what I ever did so wrong to deserve this.

But Jesus’ teachings give us a clear path to follow: recognize them, protect your peace, trust that justice will come, and don’t let them steal your joy.

Because in the end, those who thrive on chaos, jealousy, and manipulation—will face the consequences of their own actions. And you? You’ll walk in peace.

Accepting The Unthinkable Unlocks Magic and Miracles (Seriously)

Acceptance: The Hardest Test of Faith (But the One That Unlocks Miracles)

Here’s the thing no one really talks about when it comes to faith: sometimes, no matter how hard you pray or how good you are, things just don’t change.

You do everything right—pray, stay humble, keep your heart open—and still, nothing. It’s like you’re pouring your heart into the universe, asking God for help, and yet, the situation, the person, or the circumstances never budge.

And the hardest part? When it feels like God is silent.

You’ve been there, right? You’ve been blindsided with disappointment, so many times you don’t even know how to react anymore. Or you pray about that job, that relationship, that issue with a friend, and after a while, nothing happens.

Or worse, things get worse. Maybe someone stabs you in the back when you least expect it, after all the kindness you’ve shown.

Maybe you’re left reeling, your faith shaken, and you start asking the big question: What’s the point of it all?

That’s when the real test begins: acceptance.

Acceptance is one of those words we throw around like it’s easy, but in practice? It’s brutal. It’s hard to accept when things don’t go your way, especially when you’ve done everything you were supposed to do.

You prayed, trusted and patiently waited. And still, there’s no sign of things changing.

But here’s the thing: acceptance isn’t about giving up.

It’s about letting go of control.

And that? That’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do.

We love control. We love having our hands on the wheel, driving the ship, knowing exactly when the storm is going to hit and how we’re going to navigate it.

But God doesn’t work like that. His timing? It’s not yours. His way? It’s not yours either.

If you can step back, release your vise-like grip, and accept the uncertainty, that’s when God can actually come in and do what He’s been trying to do all along.

It’s when He can open doors you didn’t even know were there, bring people into your life you never imagined, and give you blessings that you couldn’t possibly have orchestrated on your own.

In James 1:2-4, it says: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

You see, that testing of your faith? That’s what’s preparing you for the blessings that are coming. And when you finally get to the point where you let go, that’s when things start shifting.

But here’s the thing: when you’re deep in the middle of pain, when your emotions are high and your heart is heavy, it’s hard to see that. All you can think about is the betrayal, the disappointment, the unanswered prayers. And in that moment, your faith gets tested.

You ask yourself: “Why bother? Why keep praying if nothing changes?”

But if you can keep those emotions in check, if you can accept the situation for what it is and stop trying to control everything, that’s when the real breakthroughs happen.

Philippians 4:6-7 puts it like this: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

It’s about giving up the anxiety, the need to control, and finding peace in the uncertainty.

Now, I know firsthand that’s not easy. It’s hard to accept the fact that you don’t have all the answers and that you might never get to know the why behind it all.

But once you release that weight, once you really let go of the need for everything to happen on your timeline, that’s when God can step in and work things out in a way that’s better than anything you could have planned.

I get it. It’s frustrating. It’s heartbreaking. But if you can hold your faith, and accept that God is working in the background—even when you don’t see it—you’ll find peace. And in that peace, you’ll start to see blessings come into your life in ways you never imagined.

Doors will open. People will come. Miracles will happen.

You just have to let God do His thing, in His time. And the quicker you can truly let go, the quicker that can happen.

So, take a deep breath. Let go. Trust Him fully. Because the best is yet to come.

The Startling Truth About Forgiveness

Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean Letting People Walk All Over You—It Means Trusting God with the Mess

Forgiveness.

The word itself feels heavy, especially when you’re the one who’s been wronged.

And let’s be real. When life hits you with betrayal, heartbreak, or unfair treatment, the last thing you feel like doing is forgiving.

It feels like handing over the keys to your heart to someone who’s already used it as a doormat.

But here’s the truth: forgiveness is NOT about being okay with what was done to you.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean you pretend that the wrong wasn’t wrong. It doesn’t mean you let someone back into your life to do the same thing over again. And it definitely doesn’t mean turning the other cheek, as many people mistakenly believe.

No, forgiveness is something deeper, harder—and ultimately, something far more powerful than just accepting hurt and moving on.

Forgiveness is about trusting God with what you cannot control.

Now, I know—this sounds like a cliché, right? Like one of those “just let it go” pieces of advice that people throw around when they don’t understand the gravity of what you’ve been through.

But hear me out.

When we’re hurt, it’s natural to want to take things into our own hands. We want revenge, payback, justice—some form of retribution to make things right.

And, let’s be honest, sometimes we want to see the people who’ve wronged us suffer, or at least acknowledge the pain they’ve caused.

But here’s the reality: you can’t always fix it, and you shouldn’t have to.

Forgiveness is about laying that burden down and trusting that God will handle what you can’t. It’s about recognizing that there’s a bigger picture at play, even when you can’t see it right now.

The Bible speaks to this in Romans 12:19: “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.”

In other words, God has it covered. The wrongs done to you are seen. He knows the pain. He understands the injustice. And when we release that burden to Him, we are trusting that He will make things right—whether or not we ever get to see it in this lifetime.

That doesn’t mean you need to let people back into your life who have hurt you. Forgiveness does not mean reopening the door to toxic relationships or giving people a second (or third, or fourth) chance to cause the same damage.

In fact, sometimes the most loving thing you can do—both for yourself and for them—is to walk away.

Jesus didn’t say we should allow people to abuse us. He didn’t say we should continue to be mistreated or manipulated. In Matthew 18:15, Jesus gives us a clear process for confronting sin, but He also reminds us in the same breath that forgiveness is a choice we make, for our own healing, not as a free pass for others to hurt us again.

Forgiveness means that you choose to let go of the bitterness and anger that hold you captive.

It’s a daily decision to release the need for payback. It’s about freeing yourself from the burden of being stuck in the cycle of revenge and hurt.

And while forgiveness doesn’t mean everything is made right in the moment, it does mean that God is working behind the scenes, taking the hurt you’ve been through and using it for something greater.

As it says in Romans 8:28, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

That’s the promise. Even when it feels like you’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of injustice, even when it feels like the weight of what they did to you will never lift, God is working it out.

There are blessings on the other side of this, blessings you can’t even imagine right now.

Forgiveness isn’t easy. It’s often one of the hardest things we’ll ever do. But it’s also one of the most powerful.

When you trust God with your pain, when you let go of the need for revenge, you open yourself up to His blessings—blessings that will come in ways you never expected.

So, if you’re struggling to forgive, remember this: forgiveness isn’t about being okay with what was done to you.

It’s about trusting God to make things right, even when you can’t see how.

And when you choose to let Him take care of it, you’ll find a peace and strength that nothing in this world can offer.

Injustices: Why the Worst People Always Seem to Get Away with It (And Why You Don’t Need to Worry About It)

Ever feel like the worst people always get away with it?

Like the ones who cheat, lie, and manipulate always come out on top?

And here you are—trying to do the right thing, living with integrity, and watching as those who sow chaos seem to thrive while you’re stuck picking up the pieces.

Yeah, it feels pretty messed up. And if we’re being honest, it’s one of the biggest struggles in the Christian walk: how do you deal with the injustice around you when it seems like God is doing nothing about it?

You know exactly what I mean. The greedy business owner who takes advantage of his employees. The politician who enriches themselves while the people suffer. The toxic person in your life who keeps running roughshod over others, spreading pain and destruction, yet always seems to escape any real consequences.

It’s frustrating. It feels like the universe is upside down.

But here’s the truth: just because it seems like they’re winning now doesn’t mean they will forever.

I get it. Right now, it feels like they’re untouchable. It feels like they’re skating through life while you’re the one left with all the broken pieces. You see them cutting corners, stepping on others, and thriving while you try to live in a way that honors God.

But, listen: there’s a law at work in the universe, and it’s bigger than anything they can escape.

The Bible says it clearly: “Whoever sows injustice will reap calamity, and the rod of his fury will fail.” — Proverbs 22:8

That’s right. It may look like they’re winning now, but their time is coming. Sooner or later, their actions will catch up with them.

It’s not a maybe. It’s a promise.

You see, in our world, there’s this idea that the unjust, the deceitful, the corrupt always somehow manage to evade the consequences of their actions. And yeah, sometimes it feels like that’s the case. But this is where faith comes in.

We’ve been taught that justice should be immediate, right? We want to see the bad guys get their comeuppance right here, right now. But God works on a bigger timeline. We might not see the full measure of justice, but it’s coming—either in this life or the next.

Consider this scripture: “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” — Galatians 6:7

The people who harm others, who exploit and manipulate, are sowing seeds of destruction. And while they might seem to flourish for a season, that doesn’t mean they’re not digging their own grave. They’re living in a cycle of their own making, and eventually, the consequences of their actions will catch up with them.

Now, this doesn’t mean you should sit back and do nothing, either. Don’t allow injustice to pass you by without speaking out or standing up for what’s right.

But the point is: you don’t have to fix everything. You don’t have to be the one to deliver justice, because God is the ultimate judge.

Here’s another truth: sometimes the people who seem to be getting away with things may actually be the ones suffering the most internally. Maybe they have all the money or power, but are they really living in peace? Are they whole? Are they joyful? Most likely, they’re just as broken as anyone else, even if their life on the outside looks perfect.

So, what do you do with all this injustice you see?

First, accept it. Acknowledge that we live in a fallen world where things aren’t always fair. And that’s hard. It’s frustrating. It can feel like God isn’t paying attention. But, as Jesus said in John 16:33, “In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

Second, trust that God is working behind the scenes. You may not see it today, or tomorrow, or even in the next year, but God is just. And in His timing, He will bring the scales back into balance.

In the end, those who sow injustice, who harm and exploit others, will face the consequences of their actions. They will reap what they have sown. It might not be in a way you expect. It might not even be in your lifetime. But it will come. And it’s a guarantee.

So, don’t let their temporary “victories” steal your peace. Don’t let their bad behavior shake your faith. Know that justice is God’s, and it will be served. And in the meantime, focus on living a life that honors Him, even when it feels like the world is full of injustices.

Because while they might be thriving for now, the truth is: their time is coming.