Worthiness Is a Choice

Why We All Feel Useless (And What to Do About It)

The Universal Feeling of Doubt

Let’s be real. At some point, most of us feel worthless, like we’re somehow falling short.

Maybe it hits when we scroll through social media, seeing others with seemingly perfect lives, or when we look back and wonder if we missed our mark somewhere.

This feeling doesn’t discriminate—it reaches everyone, whether young or old, successful or struggling. Even those who seem to “have it all together” question their worth at times.

Why Do We Question Our Worth?

This feeling of inadequacy often arises because of our society’s obsession with success and self-image.

Society constantly reminds us that our “prime” is behind us or that we don’t measure up. We’re bombarded with messages that we should be more, do more, and have more.

When life doesn’t look like the highlight reels we see daily, doubts creep in about our value.

But here’s the truth: feeling worthless is part of the human experience. Even in the Bible, we see people struggle with these feelings.

Psalm 139:14 reminds us, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

This isn’t just a feel-good quote—it’s a real reminder of our intentional design and purpose, even when we can’t see it ourselves.

Recognize Your Value in God’s Eyes

Knowing that we’re “wonderfully made” doesn’t always make these feelings disappear. When we feel lost or as though we’ve failed, we need to step back and look at the bigger picture.

God doesn’t make mistakes. Our worth isn’t tied to accomplishments or how we compare to others. We’re valuable simply because of who we are and who created us.

I have a hard time with that one. My self worth was tied to whatever success I had financially. So when things were good, I felt great about myself.

But illness and a hit to the economy sent me back to scraping for change and terrified I couldn’t pay my bills for years.

My self worth took probably the biggest hit of my life at that time. I know a lot of people who’ve gone through a similar type of loss who felt the same way.

Jeremiah 29:11 assures us, “For I know the plans I have for you…plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Even in times of discouragement, God has a purpose for us. This season of doubt or waiting might feel like a setback, but it’s often a time of growth that prepares us for what lies ahead.

Embrace Your Worth and Purpose

The next time you feel worthless, remember you’re not alone. This is a part of everyone’s journey, no matter how they appear from the outside.

Your worth isn’t about job titles, age, or approval from others. You are valuable, chosen, and “fearfully and wonderfully made.”

Keep moving forward—your purpose is bigger than you can imagine right now.